A funeral song is often one of the most poignant moments of a ceremony, and Americans want to ensure it's truly unforgettable.
New research conducted by Talker Researcher surveyed 2,000 American adults, asking: "If you could choose one song to be played at your funeral or end-of-life celebration, what would it be?"
From pop and hip-hop to classic hymns, the genres vary, but there's a common thread: Americans want to make sure there isn't a dry eye in the house when their time comes.
The classic hymn "Amazing Grace" emerged as the most popular choice, followed by Frank Sinatra's "My Way," Led Zeppelin's "Stairway to Heaven," and Michael Jackson's "You Are Not Alone."
Music Becomes Powerful at Funerals
Newsweek discussed the November survey with Dr. Sheena Kumar, a chartered psychologist based in London.
She explained: "Research shows that when we hear music, nearly the entire brain is activated. Music has the power to take over emotions and put listeners in a shared mental space, fostering social bonding. At funerals, music becomes especially powerful, amplifying an already emotionally charged environment.
"Our brains release hormones in response to the type of music we hear, influencing our feelings, triggering memories, and even affecting our physical reactions—like crying, tapping along, or swaying. Grief often involves cycling through a range of emotions, and music can support and guide us through this process in a healthy way."
According to Marie Curie, the U.K.'s leading end of life charity, songs like Pink Floyd's "Comfortably Numb" resonates with people facing death and grief due to its themes of loneliness, pain, and feeling lost. Meanwhile, "My Way" is a powerful anthem for those who have lived life unapologetically on their own terms.
The Impact of an Upbeat Song at a Funeral
Interestingly, not all respondents chose somber tunes for their final celebration. Some preferred upbeat tracks, such as Bobby McFerrin's "Don't Worry, Be Happy" and "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" by Cyndi Lauper.
One participant suggested "If My Friends Could See Me Now" by Linda Clifford, commenting: "I don't want them to be sad."
Newsweek also spoke with Ed Gallois, managing director of the U.K.-based price comparison website Funeral Guide.
He shared: "Music often speaks where words cannot. While choosing an upbeat song for a funeral may seem unconventional to some, it can bring a sense of lightness to an otherwise solemn occasion. For families aiming to honor a loved one's spirit or celebrate their life with joy, such choices can be deeply meaningful.
"This approach allows the mood to shift from mourning to gratitude, encouraging reflection on the happy moments and vibrancy of the life lived. It creates an environment that feels authentic to the individual, offering comfort and connection through cherished memories."
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