Dating coach shares four 'hidden' signs your relationship might be in trouble

A dating expert has shared four subtle signs that your relationship could be on the rocks - even if it seems to be in a good place.

With Valentine's Day fast approaching, lots of couples will be thinking about their plans for the big night. Some will be setting themselves reminders to pick up flowers and chocolates; others might already have their gift sorted.

But before you get too carried away, it might be worth looking out for some of these 'surprising' signs that expert James Preece says could be an indicator your relationship is 'in danger'.

Speaking to UNILAD, Preece, who is also an author at AI girlfriend platform HeraHaven, noted that relationships 'don't fail overnight', and instead these signs could form part of a 'series of changes that indicate a deeper issue'.

So, what should you look out for?

Walking on emotional eggshells

One relationship red flag to look out for is your partner becoming 'overly cautious' in conversations.

"For example, if they begin to agree with everything, are hesitant to share their feelings or want to avoid confrontation, this can all stem from a fear of conflict," Preece said.

The expert went on to explain that the reason your partner may be avoiding conflict could be because they have 'already checked out of the relationship'.

Increased sexual energy

Given that sex is usually a key part of romantic relationships, Preece admitted that it might be easy to consider more intimacy as a 'positive development'.

However, the expert claimed an unexpected spike in sexual energy 'could actually signal underlying issues'.

Increased frequency in the bedroom could be a sign that your partner is thinking about someone else, but they're trying to 'channel that energy into your relationship'.

"It can be challenging to confront, but an open conversation is needed if things have changed suddenly or you feel your partner’s behaviour is inconsistent," Preece said.

A shift from 'we' to 'I'

If you've ever watched a friend fall head-over-heels for a new partner, you might have noticed how they suddenly start referring to themselves as a 'we'.

Preece admitted that language 'can reveal a lot about someone's mindset' - but just how 'we' may indicate adoration for a partner, 'I' could be a sign they're thinking about life without you.

He explained: "If your partner starts saying, 'I have plans', instead of 'we' or talks about goals in a way that excludes you, they could be showing a subconscious desire for independence. They may also be considering life with you and your relationship."

Avoiding future plans

As well as seemingly making solo plans, Preece warned people to look out for a resistance to long-term commitments.

"From booking a holiday to discussing goals and aspirations, if your partner resists... this could also be a warning sign," he said. "After all, if they don’t want to discuss the future it could be because they’re not sure you’ll be in it."

How can you save your relationship?

If any of these signs are sounding worryingly familiar to you, Preece has assured that there are steps you can take to try and get back to more solid ground.

First, he recommended 'talking about the situation'.

"Share your concerns without blame and encourage your partner to open up," he said. "By finding the root cause of your issues - be it stress, unmet expectations or lack of quality time, you can work together to fix it."

Preece also recommended trying to prioritize each other as well as date nights and shared hobbies.

"Don’t forget to show your gratitude for the other person," he added. "A small thank you, or compliment can go a long way in fostering a positive atmosphere. Consistency matters, too, so be sure to make them your priority."

Of course, there's always professional help available too, with Preece advising couples to reach out to a dating coach or therapist if needed.

"A professional can provide tools to rebuild your connection," he explained. "Post-holiday blues, financial pressures and the desire for a fresh start often make January one of the most challenging times for couples. But staying alert to the above subtle signs and taking proactive steps can mean you can save your relationship before it’s too late."