After a grueling 10-hour shift, a 27-year-old woman returned home eager for a simple comfort: one egg roll from a takeout order she placed for her sick boyfriend.
But when she entered the living room, she found her egg roll missing—and her boyfriend's explanation left her furious.
According to her Reddit post, the woman had ordered chicken noodle soup for her 29-year-old boyfriend, who was feeling under the weather, and two egg rolls—one for each of them.
When the food arrived, she was doing her nails and heard her boyfriend call her name from the living room. About 10 minutes later, she went to join him but then found that her egg roll had vanished.
"He proceeds to tell me he gave an egg roll to the dog since it fell on the floor then proceeds to eat the other one plus the food he got as well," the OP recounted.
"I turn completely red with anger. He cannot comprehend why I'm so upset and offers to order me one. The thing is it's about to be 12 am in the morning and I don't want to wait another 45 minutes for 1 egg roll.
"I turn myself in for the night, all I ask is to be alone and end the night by myself because I know I am still very f***ing upset. He does not understand why I'm so heated."
The woman's post sparked an outpouring of responses from Redditors, many of whom criticized her boyfriend's behavior as dismissive and inconsiderate.
One user noted, "He gave HIS egg roll to the dog because HE dropped it, and then decided to eat YOURS instead," while another added, "You worked 10 hours, ordered the food, and all you wanted was ONE egg roll. ONE. And this man gave it to the dog like some kind of tragic sitcom plot.
"It's not just an egg roll... it's the principle. At midnight, that egg roll was hope, peace, and the will to survive. He needs to understand that messing with a tired woman's comfort food is dangerous territory."
Respect and Mutual Understanding
While some might view this incident as trivial, experts suggest that small actions in relationships often reflect larger issues of respect and mutual understanding.
According to Healthline, persistent patterns of neglect, even in minor situations, can erode trust over time. The article points out that when one partner consistently disregards the other's feelings, it may signal deeper incompatibilities or a lack of respect.
Similarly, Verywell Mind outlines what psychologist John Gottman calls the "Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse": criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.
While the woman's post doesn't suggest this relationship has reached this critical stage, her boyfriend's inability to understand her frustration could hint at underlying communication issues.
Contempt, even in the form of dismissing a partner's simple request or need, is one of the most damaging behaviors in a relationship.
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