Teddi Mellencamp Discusses “Biggest Struggle” in Marriage to Edwin and How She Changed Herself for RHOBH, Plus Offensive Convo with Edwin That Was Edited Out

Teddi Mellencamp addressed the breakdown of her marriage to Edwin Arroyave, how she changed herself for the show, and an offensive conversation with Edwin that was edited out.

Last year, Teddi announced she was filing for divorce after 13 years of marriage. Afterward, reports surfaced that both of them cheated. Though Teddi was fired from Real Housewives of Beverly Hills in 2020, she’s still friends with many in the cast.

On the Skinny Confidential podcast, Teddi addressed a convo with Edwin that was edited out. According to Teddi, this was the one conversation in which Edwin did something “wrong” on camera.

“This one dinner … they had us have that conversation like, should we have another baby,” recalled Teddi. “At that moment I’m trying to self-produce him through my head, like, kicking him under the table and he’s like, ‘Oh gosh. But then are you going to get all big and depressed again?'”

Teddi said she “pretend[ed]” that the comment “meant nothing” in the moment because she wanted to “protect” him.

But she claimed her marriage was “fine” during the show, and “all the things that happened” took place after her firing. Teddi shared that her weight-loss business got “attacked” online amid public scrutiny and hate, and her daughter “chopped off her finger” after a door slammed on it in the middle of the pandemic.

Teddi said she fought for their marriage for years without it being reciprocated, and by the time Edwin was “ready to start working on it,” Teddi herself “stopped” trying, though she never told Edwin that she was “checked out.”

“For 16 years, I tried to be this person [that] I’m not,” she said. The star also hinted that when she’s confronted with “hurtful things,” she “pretend[s]” not to “care.” Teddi added that she was “broken” and “hated myself,” and there were moments when she thought she might “die.”

She said their “biggest struggle” was right after she was accepted into the cast. 

“I would say the worst time in our marriage was right after the kids up until when I booked the show and I had had all the IVF issues,” shared Teddi. “Our biggest struggle was right when they had told me that you booked Housewives. And I don’t know. I had, like, so much fear… I was a shell of myself, trying to portray this perfect life that was really far from perfect.”

“You can’t help but self-produce,” she said. “And the women that don’t … they’re excellent Housewives.”