Woman Moves out of in-Laws' House Before Wedding Date

On Reddit, a woman shared why she has decided to move out of her in-laws' house before her wedding date.

"My partner (41) and I (33) are engaged without a current wedding date. We quit our jobs over a year ago to do some long-term travel we had saved up for and to my surprise my partner proposed before we shipped out internationally," she began.

In the meantime, the couple has been storing some stuff at her future in-laws' house and they have also decided to move in for a short period of time. However, the problem came with how the parents live.

"I have had a hard time living with his parents because they are hoarders with IMO weird habits and routines. Communication is not open in the family, very awkward and surface level -- dinners are . so . quiet. There is also a strange relationship between my FIL (72) and a 27-year-old female that I don't approve of and feel uncomfortable with but no one can talk about it with him," she said.

"My MIL is surface level kind but also judgmental, lonely and hovers when in my vicinity. I am previously divorced and hold no sentimentality around stuff so when my MIL asked if I wanted to have her wedding dress tailored to me to wear I agreed because I knew it would mean a lot to her. When I told her (in 2023) we were thinking of having the wedding in 2025 she was shocked and inferred we couldn't because that was the year of their 50th wedding anniversary. Of which they have nothing and will probably not have anything planned to celebrate," the woman added.

The couple has been with the parents for 5 months now and they are getting tired of staying there.

"I want to move out, be closer to work, into a furnished apartment while I wait out the application period. Us potentially moving out has been communicated to them by my partner in a private situation I wasn't aware of initially but they still maintain they enjoy us living with them and that we're welcome to stay," the woman said.

"So here I am living rent free with her re-tailored wedding dress--I'm not even sure when we'll have the wedding -- AITAH for wanting to move out? My partner is supportive either way -- he wants to save as much money as possible so mildly thinks it is fiscally irresponsible," she concluded.

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Users in the comments section of the post shared their thoughts on the situation.

"Just because someone is offering you something (like free housing) doesn't mean you're obligated to accept it, especially if it comes at the expense of your mental well-being. You deserve to feel comfortable and safe in your living space," wrote one person.

"It sounds like you’re caught between gratitude and frustration here. Living with in-laws in such close quarters can be draining, especially if the household routines and communication styles clash with your own. It makes sense that you’re craving some space and normalcy, especially since the environment seems to be affecting your mental well-being," shared someone else.

"The adjustment is easier for him than for you because he was raised by them. Naturally he wouldn’t see the problem. But don’t doubt yourself," chimed in another.

"Hoarding is a mental health condition. It tracks that it would be difficult to live with. You don't have to live in unclean conditions. Move out," advised a Reddit user.