31 Hottest (Unexpected) Erogenous Zones, According to Experts

When things are heating up, there are a few obvious places you want your partner to hit for sexual arousal. But when it comes to erogenous zones—those crazy-sensitive hot spots that can take you from zero to gotta-have-it-right-now—your lips, nipples, and genitals barely scratch the surface. Your body is covered in highly sensitive areas you may never have even thought to explore.

Because whether you're having partnered sex or enjoying a hot masturbation sesh on your own, knowing your favorite erotic spots can make things so much more enjoyable. Especially if you learn new-to-you ways to stimulate those erogenous areas.

What is an erogenous zone?

“An erogenous zone is anywhere on the body that has a heightened sensitivity and can elicit a sexual response when stimulated,” explains Jane Greer, PhD, a sex and relationship expert. To take things up a notch in the bedroom and improve your sex life, knowing where your most sensitive spots are is important—no matter your gender or where you fall on the sexual spectrum. So let's venture into some new erogenous zone territory, shall we? Read on to learn more.

The most common erogenous zones for everyone

1. The nipples

A list of different erogenous zones without nipples is like pizza without cheese: It just doesn’t make sense. Although nipple sensitivity differs from person to person, there’s no doubt that when it comes to erogenous zones, they’re high up there on the list.

In fact nipples are one of the biggest female erogenous zones, so much so that people can actually experience a nipple orgasm during stimulation. But people with vulvas aren't the only ones who can enjoy this erogenous spot.

“Nipples are sensitive on all bodies, some more than others, but worth playing with to find out if it drives your lover or yourself wild,” says Anne Louise Burdett, a certified sex educator and CEO of TOCA, an organic CBD line of personal lubricants. “This erogenous zone can often put people over the top in the very best way.”

Because the nerves can differ, especially during a menstrual cycle or pregnancy for women, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. While some people love to have their nipple pinched and twisted, others are content with just a gentle graze or lick.

2. The nape of the neck

If you're a neck person, you know it. “The nape and back of your neck have so many nerve endings that a light touch is all that's needed to drive you—and your partner—wild,” says Greer. If you're not sure where to begin, ask your partner to lightly run the tips of their fingers up and down your neck as you kiss to hit that concentration of nerves. To heat things up even more, incorporate playful biting or establish a no-kissing-on-the-lips rule and have your partner focus on your neck instead.

3. The lips

It may seem a little old-fashioned, but even if you're not into multi-hour-long makeout sessions, your lips (the ones on your face) will always be one of the hottest erogenous points. “Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a bunch of nerve endings located very close to the surface of the skin,” says Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. “They’ve got 100 times more than our fingertips.”

Unlike some erogenous zones that might need a heavier hand to stimulate them, even the slightest touch to your lips releases a happy rush of feel-good hormones to your brain that can affect your emotions as well as your nether regions, she explains.

“Use your own lips, teeth, and tongue to lick, nibble, and caress your partner's top and bottom lip, experimenting with different amounts of pressure,” says Morse. When you come up for air, trace the outline of your partner’s lips with your thumb while locking eyes with them and then get back to it.

4. The inner thighs

Before going straight for the main course, have your partner spend some time teasing your inner thighs with their fingers, mouth, or even a bullet vibrator on its lowest setting. The skin here is highly sensitive and packed with nerve endings, which means it's extra responsive to your partner's nibbles, nips, and licks.

If you really want to kick it up to the next level, ask your partner to “trace an ice cube up and down [your thighs] and explore that new sensation,” suggests Greer.

5. The inner knee

If you haven't had a partner spend a good 20 or 30 minutes just focusing on the erotic spot behind the knee, you're missing out. Even the slightest kiss in that area is the type of thing that can drive anyone crazy—in the best way possible.

“The spot behind your knee may not have gotten much love in the past, but stroke it lightly with your hand—or have your partner do it—and you’ll realize that it’s much more sensitive than you realized,” says Emma McGowan, certified sex educator and author of Bustle's Sex IDK advice column. “If you’re into it, have your partner lick it as well as caress. It’s a whole new spot that’s ripe for exploration.”

6. The bottoms of your feet

Because foot fetishes are one of the more common fetishes out there, you might be thinking that the feet and toes are only an erogenous zone for people with that particular kink. Not so! They're actually two separate sexual thoughts. The feet contain pressure points which, for some, can spark arousal. The arches of your feet, in particular, are also packed with nerve endings, which means a hell of a lot of sensitivity.

Since some people are ticklish down there, you’ll want to focus on firm, steady strokes over light and tickly motions. Think of it more like a massage, pleasurable in any context, which can also help relaxation—a key for many to reaching orgasm.

7. In between your toes

Speaking of feet, another erogenous zone that people don’t always think of is in between the toes. “Any area can become an erogenous zone with the right type of touch,” says Rami Najjar, registered psychologist and clinic director of Resilience Psychotherapy. And considering just how thin and delicate the skin between your toes is, it only makes sense that it can be extremely arousing.

To stimulate this hot spot, start with a sensual foot massage focusing on that ultra-sensitive skin between the toes. The toes tend to be ticklish for some people, though, so stimulation in this area should be firm as opposed to light strokes.

8. The lower back

When you ask people about their favorite erogenous zones, the back often comes up. For some it’s the inter-scapular—that space between your shoulder blades that’s impossible to reach on your own. (Perhaps that’s why it’s so hot: It’s unattainable.) For others, it’s the small of the back.

“Your lower back, just above the crease of your butt, is a supersensitive spot,” says McGowan. “Think about anytime someone has put their hand there as you’re walking together. Hot, right? Well, it’s even hotter when they touch it naked.”

9. The brain

In news that may or may not surprise you, according to Skyler, the brain is one of the biggest and most central erogenous zone for many people. Think about it this way: If our brain is not in the mood—if we're too stressed, tired, whatever—that blocks the rest of the body from being able to act on arousal, she explains. After all, sex is only sexy if you're in the right mindset.

“Establishing a genuine connection before getting physical will only help make things hotter in the bedroom,” says Jenni Skyler, PhD, and AASECT-certified sex therapist at The Intimacy Institute of Colorado.

Less common erogenous zones for everyone

10. The scalp

Some of the less common erogenous zones to focus on in bed are in fact pretty routine in your daily life. See: the scalp. Anyone who's had their hair done professionally knows the joy of a thorough wash and condition, even when it's not being done in any sexual way.

“Your scalp has thousands of little nerve endings, and if you’ve ever had your hair pulled during sex, you know it’s an erogenous zone,” McGowan says. “Don’t discount the value of some solid hair pulling!”

If hair pulling isn’t your thing, you can still reap the benefits of all those nerve endings in the scalp. If you’re more into stroking your partner’s hair or them stroking yours, there’s still a delicious eroticism that comes with tantalizing this part of the head.

11. The ears

Ears are meant for hearing—and being nibbled, kissed, and licked. And not just the lobes.

“Although ears are considered to be highly erotic, they are often overlooked, making them an even hotter spot when you want to crank things up in bed,” says Morse. “The ears are actually very sensitive to touch because there’s a massive number of sensory receptors.”

Ask your partner to lightly trace the C-shaped outline of your ear with their fingertips while you’re kissing. Gentle kissing and nibbling can also set off fireworks. This can be an especially powerful move when done in tandem with some below-the-belt action—it might even help you climax or intensify your orgasm.

12. The stomach

Your lower stomach—between your belly button and your pubic area—is a surprising female arousal trigger when gently grazed, even when you're alone. Why? With the right touch, you can actually stimulate the G-spot from the opposite side. Your nerves know this, so they perk up.

This area isn't strictly a women's pleasure zone. People with penises can also enjoy it because the area just above everyone's pelvis can be a major tease. Stimulating that area with your hands or mouth helps blood flow to the other major erogenous zone lurking just south.

This area is also great for playing a bit with temperature: Have your partner delicately place a hot or cold washcloth on the skin just above your pelvis before oral, or playfully dangle it from above to brush the skin teasingly.

13. The hands

Of all the parts of the body, the hands have to be the sexiest—even if they're not necessarily an erogenous zone for everyone. While our heart and brain keep us alive, it's our hands that do the work, create, and build. When you put it like that, how can hands not be an erogenous zone?

“The hands are extremely sensual. Even a light tight touch can gently produce waves of sensation,” says Shannon Chavez, PsyD, a psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles. She goes so far as to call your hands one of your most important sex organs. “When you suck them, you’re actually having a form of oral sex,” she says. “If a partner sucks on a finger and massages it with the tongue, it sends the signal to the reward center of the brain similar to sex.”

To explore, have your partner gently kiss the sensitive pads of your finger tips, using their tongue to draw slow circles. If you're into it, try a little light suction.

14. The wrist

While the wrist might seem like an erogenous zone from the Jane Austen era (and it was), all these years later, it still continues to hold its charm. Delicate and fragile, there’s something both romantic and deeply erotic about the wrist. Like similar areas on the body (the ankles, the back of the knee) use light caresses to stimulate this area.

15. The pubic mound

Okay, it's not the sexiest-sounding body part, but the area above the pubic bone can be an electrifying spot when stimulated properly. “Your pubic mound is connected to your genitals and sexual response thanks to sensitive nerve endings and glands that emit pheromones, natural body scent, and sweat,” says Chavez.

It really doesn't take must to wake up this spot—just minimal pressure will do the trick. To activate it, have your partner start by massaging the area lightly to increase sexual arousal.

16. The anus

Butt stuff isn't for everyone. But for many people the anus is a serious hot spot. “There are lots of sensitive nerve endings in the anus, so that can be a hot and heavy place for people,” says Skyler.

That said, what feels good for one person may not turn on the next, so play around with it and see what works for you. “For some people, this could just be caressing the outside of the butt cheeks and the rim of the anus,” Skyler says. “For some people it's licking, for some people it's very light penetration, and for some people its full penetration.” Just remember, if you do dabble in anal penetration, even a little bit, don’t forget the lube.

17. The butt cheeks

If you’ve explored anal play and found it’s not for you, that doesn’t mean that butt play—as in your actual cheeks—is off limits.

A lot of people find having their butt played with, spanked, massaged, or simply just given a little extra attention really exciting. According to Najjar, that space where the butt meets the thigh is also one hell of an erogenous zone worth experimenting with.

18. The perineum

Similar to asses (as in everyone has one), everyone has a perineum too. The perineum is that strip of skin between the anus and the genitals, and is home to the pudendal nerve, the main purpose of which is to carry sensations back and forth through the intricate network of all the other nerves down there. Basically, it’s something worth getting to know and thoroughly explore.

“It’s perfect for exploring,” says Daniel Saynt, founder of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a private members club hosting regular workshops and events safely exploring open love, kink, and sexuality. “Lick it, slap it, bite it, or massage it. Based on your partners’ tolerance, you can explore a lot of powerful sensations by exploring this erotic zone.” However you want to delve into this area, just be sure to communicate with your partner so it's enjoyable for both of you.

19. The armpits

When you think about how to foreplay, you probably don't think armpits. But if you can get past a little sweat, hair, and taboo, your armpits can be a surprising erogenous zone. Think about it this way: Your armpits are super sensitive. The same thing that makes them so ticklish can also make this spot a surprising turn-on.

Here's how to explore: Have your partner take the tips of their fingers and gently brush your underarms. First, lightly go up and down before shifting to a brisk, circular motion, paying close attention to what elicits the best response. It’s playful, sure, but also seductive.

20. The crease of the thigh

When it comes to erogenous zones for men and women, it’s not just all about the obvious. A great blow job or fantastic cunnilingus involves more than just the genitals, according to McGowan. “Paying attention to the area around the penis and testicles helps build anticipation and arousal," she says. “That little crease where the thigh meets the torso is a great place to work into your oral sex repertoire.”

21. The crook of your arm

“If you’ve ever had the crook of your arm stimulated—the inner portion where the humerus connects the radius/ulna—you’ll likely know how sensitive this area can be,” says Gigi Engle, certified sexologist, Promescent brand adviser, and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. “The skin there is thin, leading to a more intense feeling.”

Try running your fingers lightly along the inner arm between the wrist and the elbow to start. “If it tickles too much, you can also try massaging this area for a deeper feeling,” says Engle.

22. The inside of your ankle

Since we’re already down by the feet, we might as well cover the other major erogenous zone down there: the inside of the ankle.

Similar to the wrist, Najjar points out that this particular area of the body is definitely one that can induce pleasure when stimulated the right way with light touch. There’s also a seductive element to it, one that might even inspire a desire to kiss and lick it.

23. The earlobes

Although we’ve already covered the ear, it’s important to differentiate the difference between the ear and the earlobe. Each part offers a different sensation.

“Like the crook of the arm, the earlobe has thinner skin, meaning it is more sensitive to touch,” says Engle. “Have your partner give you a little nibble on the earlobe and see if you enjoy it. Some people enjoy super-hard biting on the ears and others prefer super-gentle touch. Start with gentle and then work your way to more intense sensations.”

24. The Achilles tendon

According to Najjar, if you’re looking for erogenous zones that take you away from breasts and genitalia and back down toward the feet, then a spot worth exploring is the Achilles tendon. While it may come across as just a band of tissue that connects the heel to the calf, there’s more to it than that. Similar to the inside of the ankle, when stroked and stimulated in a light and playful way, the experience can become erotic.

Erogenous zones for women

25. The labia minora

There are several women's erogenous zones—that is, spots that only people with vulvas can enjoy—that can totally change a sexual encounter for the better. When we think of the vulva and erogenous zones in that area, our brain tends to go straight to the masturbation money spot: the clitoris. While that’s definitely a place to play with your fingers or vibrator for clitoral orgasms, it’s not the only place in that region worth noting.

“Also known as the labia minora, the inner lips are erectile tissue,” says Burdett. “They engorge with blood and become hot, swollen, deeper in color, and very sensitive to the touch when aroused.”

To target the inner lips specifically, “put your fingers in a peace sign and with lots of lube and slide them up and down on the inside of the outer lips and around the inner lips,” says Burdett. This area is highly sensitive even as far as highly sensitive areas go, so don’t stimulate without plenty of lubrication (natural or otherwise).

26. The anterior vaginal wall

For the longest time, I thought squirting during sex (also known as female ejaculation) was a myth. It was something that happened only to women who own unicorns and have cupcakes for breakfast. But all that changed the very first time I squirted thanks to stimulation of a particular erogenous zone.

“This fleshy interior front wall of your vagina can be stimulated through light touch or through positions that allow insertables to hit its wall,” Saynt says. “While the way to stimulate varies based on preferred pressure and speed, your partner can help reach this area by creating a hook with two fingers and inserting their hand with palm facing up. Their palm and position allows for stimulation of your clitoris and labia, while they push on your vaginal wall. With the right amount of attention, expect a few fireworks. Towel strongly suggested.”

27. The A-spot

“Known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone, the A-spot is very close to the cervix and rests just above the bladder, past the G-spot on the same anterior wall of the vagina,” says Burdett. “Stimulating the A-spot during sex will be easiest using fingers or a toy because of its depth and angle, and positions that allow for deeper penetration.”

Burdett suggests rolling onto your stomach and approaching penetration from the back or “lifting one leg up and coming in from the side,” she says. “Deep pulsing rather than fast and hard is usually more pleasurable with this position.”

28. The breasts

While we already know that nipples are a major erogenous zone on a woman, the rest of the breasts shouldn’t be ignored. “The breasts have an intricate network of nerve endings, allowing them to be an area of enhanced sensitivity,” says Jennifer Dhingra, a doctor and sexual health advocate in the UK. Although we tend to think of breasts as being most made up of fatty tissue, they’re far more complicated than that.

Try light touching, fondling, caressing and massaging. If minimal touch isn’t doing it for you, don’t hesitate to let your partner know you need a heavier touch or, if you’re solo, take the bull by the horns on your own.

29. The V-spot

“The V-spot is a very important part of sexual discovery for vagina holders,” says Burdett. “This is the gateway to the vaginal canal and the entry point for penetration. The V stands for vaginal vestibule, which is the opening/entrance into the vagina—the area past the labia minora at the base of the vaginal canal.

This area is unsurprisingly packed with nerve endings. To stimulate it, says Burdett, “gently edge your fingers around your vaginal opening. Breathe deep. Move back and forth between the clitoral shaft, labia, and V-spot. Use the length of your finger and then your fingertips to outline your vaginal opening. Where does it feel best?” Like a lot of sex-related acts and exploring with erogenous zones, it’s all about experimenting and seeing what feels best.

Erogenous zones for men

30. The frenulum

As listed above, people of all genders can share many of the same erogenous zones. But when it comes to actual genitals, then things get more specific. After all, one can’t enjoy a stimulated prostate if they don’t have a prostate.

The frenulum, for example, is where the shaft of the penis meets the head (glans) of the penis. It’s on the underneath part of the penis and is extremely sensitive—especially for men who have their foreskin intact. It’s visible on people who have been circumcised (those who haven’t been circumcised need to pull back their foreskin to see it). The frenulum is so sensitive that even the slightest touch can all but make the penis owner explode. This is, in no way, an exaggeration. Okay, maybe a slight exaggeration. But very slight.

31. The prostate

It may have taken us quite a while to get here, but finally men—straight men—are no longer shrinking in fear at the idea of putting something in their ass. Finally! In fact, as a woman who has sex with men, I can't even tell you how often a man has asked me to give this gland a bit of attention.

“The prostate is a gland, roughly the size of a walnut, which produces fluid that contributes to the formation of semen,” says Dhingra. “The prostate is very sensitive, and stimulation of the area can lead to sexual pleasure and arousal. This may be achieved through the insertion of a finger or sex toy into the rectum, and massaging the prostate internally.”

This is also a topic that Saynt takes to heart. “Seriously consider getting into butt stuff with your partner if they have a prostate,” says Saynt. “Orgasms achieved by knowing how to stimulate your prostate and taking the time to explore and train it over time are mind-blowing. From milking to multiple orgasms, the benefits don't end with pleasure. Regularly exploring this region is connected to a reduction in prostate cancer risks.”