I threatened to kill A-list pop star after husband cheated with her – now they’re married & I’m her best pal

I REMEMBER the day I threatened to kill LeAnn very well.

It was not long after Eddie, my then husband, had left me for her.

It was Eddie’s day with our sons, Jake and Mason, and he’d taken them to a football match.

LeAnn was with them.

They’re my kids, so obviously I was going to go too.

When I got there, I saw LeAnn. She shouldn’t have been there — it was too early in the relationship.

She’s sitting there, she’s got my two-year-old, Jake, on her lap. I lost it.

I walked over to her, grabbed Jake, and said to LeAnn: “I will f***ing kill you.”

I was raging — I really wanted to hurt her. You might think there’s no way back from that.

But here’s the surprise.

Today, we’re good friends.

I’m often round at Eddie and LeAnn’s house. These days, it’s like, what time shall I come over?

I recently posted a picture of me at Eddie and LeAnn’s house on Instagram. I had a lot of supportive comments, others less so.

One poster wrote: “Seems like  a fun time celebrating with the husband and ex mistress.”  

Another said: “I don’t understand why she can’t have her children at her house with his family — why does she have to scuttle over there?”

But I believe I’ve done the right thing.

Don’t get me wrong. It took years and years — ten years to be precise — to reach this point.

Honestly, what I went through — I will never forget it. It will be a part of my story, always.

But it’s the old saying, time heals.

I’ve forgiven the two of them for breaking up my family. We’re friends. I like LeAnn.

‘We hated each other and fought all the time’

Well, there is one thing I dislike about her — she’s richer than me.

It’s best for all of us, but especially the kids.

So, how did I manage to forgive the woman who stole my husband?

At the beginning, it wasn’t promising. We only wanted the worst for each other.

Eddie and I were happy, at least I thought so. We met in a nightclub and married in 2001.

I tied the knot with my Prince Charming. I had the best marriage, the healthiest kids — I thought I was living my fairytale.

We got along great and had the best sex life.

We were always on vacations with friends, life was  perfect. Or it seemed it. We had two gorgeous sons, Mason, who’s now 21, and Jake, 17.

Then, in 2008, Eddie shot a movie with LeAnn. I visited the set one day and could tell they were attracted to each other.

I found out about the affair on the newsstand.

Pictures of Eddie and LeAnn kissing in a restaurant were plastered across the pages of a magazine.

It was devastating. I went straight home, passed out in my closet, and cried and cried.

She was married at the same time, also. This affair was ruining two families.

We had counselling, but Eddie continued to see LeAnn.

He told me he had stopped seeing her, but magazines started calling me, telling me he’d been seen on a motorcycle with her. I knew we were done.

We split in 2009 and divorced in 2010. LeAnn and Eddie got married in 2011.

My situation isn’t unusual, as around 20 per cent of married men cheat. Only about five per cent of affairs end in marriage, but Eddie and LeAnn’s was one of those rare affairs that did.

LeAnn and I hated each other, we were fighting all the time. It was really ugly.

I did not want my kids around her. She had got my husband and she was not getting my children.

I was out for revenge.

She knew how to wind me up. I don’t think LeAnn understood how she should behave to the mother of her husband’s children.

She would say things like, “I can’t wait for them to call me mum” and “I can’t wait to make your kids’ sandwiches.”

You just don’t say that sort of thing — you can imagine how that made me feel.

She was ten years younger — she was used to getting what she wanted. She didn’t get it. It was really ballsy to be showing up at football games — you just don’t do that in the beginning.

We fought about everything, and I mean everything.

We fought about what clothes the kids would keep over at their dad’s house.

The kids were feeling it, which wasn’t fair on them.

I thought to myself, “I can’t put them through this.”

So I said to Eddie and LeAnn, we need some therapy.

They agreed, but it didn’t go well.

Eddie and LeAnn didn’t like the first therapist, even though they had picked them.

So we went to another therapist. And another. It wasn’t working, so after a few months we had to stop.

They didn’t like it when the  therapist agreed with what I was saying.

I just wanted LeAnn to be respectful about me. For example, one Christmas Eve, I’m sitting alone with a bottle of wine, and she’s spending time with my kids, posting about happy families.   I wanted her to be more thoughtful.

We’d been fighting for ten years. I thought, “we can’t go on like this.”

Jake and Mason hated it. They said: “Mum, all we want is for everyone to get along.”

‘Figure out how to make your own living’

When I heard that, it became my goal. A mum will do anything for her children.

I knew it had to be up to me. Men are really proud. I just think us mums are built differently.

I’m really close with Eddie’s parents so I asked them to help.

Until that point, the boys would have two birthdays, two Christmases.

Everything was separate. I was like, why are we having two separate parties? Why don’t we grow up and have the parties all together? That’s how it started.

LeAnn responded positively. I do think, though, that at the beginning, she went along with it because she hoped it would repair what people thought of her.

They thought of her as the cheater, the other other woman.

She said it was true love, but she got a lot of hate for a long time.

But I had to accept it and move on. So we started having birthdays and Christmas at LeAnn and Eddie’s house.

 They have a pool, they have a nicer house, it’s better for hosting events.  It has its advantages. I don’t have to host, cook or clean.

 I’ve forgiven Eddie, although I don’t forgive him for taking my kids away half the time.

And I’ve forgiven LeAnn. You have to get around it somehow.

I would say to women who are going through what I went through, if  you find out your husband is having an affair, don’t blame yourself. Nothing is wrong with you.

Something is wrong with the cheater. Usually they want to have their cake and eat it, too.

If you’re dependent on the husband, figure out how to make your own living.

I’ve had a career in reality TV. I was in The Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills for several seasons, I took part in The Traitors US.

Once you’re healed, start dating. Since being single, I’ve dated people and had a good time.

Be civilised to one another for the kids’ sake — children hate seeing their parents fight.

But it’s hard. You have to be at the stage where it doesn’t bother you any more — you’re no longer angry or jealous. You have to be finally over that person.

I had 13 great years with Eddie, but he was not the person I married.

I would always love him as the father of my children, but he’d evolved into a different person who I didn’t know.

We all change. I’m not the same person I was ten years ago.

I like LeAnn. We’re both obsessed with beauty products. We’ll chat about that, tell each other about products we’ve found.

 If I need to speak to Eddie about the kids, I’ll text LeAnn and say: “Can you ask your husband to answer my f***ing text.”

We do things together as a family. If Jake has wrestling, all four of us will go. It’s a family affair.

I spent Christmas with LeAnn and Eddie and the rest of our family. It’s all quite relaxed.

Mason is 21 and lives mostly at his dad’s now. He has his own space, his own bathroom. He has a girlfriend. I’m happy with the arrangement.

Jake will be 18 in April. We’re thinking about colleges for him. I think LeAnn, Eddie and I may go and look at colleges soon.

There were many years when I thought I would never get over the heartbreak, but it happened.

Things are great — I’ll take a modern family over a warring family any day.