Why It’s Refreshing To Hear Men Like Oritsé Williams Talk About The Pain Of Miscarriages Too

Oritsé admitted that their second experience of baby loss, after they had been told that the chances of it happening again was ‘extremely unlikely’, was particularly heart-wrenching.

Things came to a head when Kazz confronted him about his lack of outward emotion. ‘I broke down, and I was on the floor, inconsolable, totally devastated, exasperating crying. It all just came flooding out, it all came flooding out,’ he said on Loose Women.

‘I said, you know, I can’t even tell you everything that I said, but I pretty much was saying to her, “Do you know how much I’m hurting inside? Do you know how much I’ve been hurt watching you be crippled?” I’ve watched the fact that her body has been struggling ever since (the miscarriages), her health has never been the same.’

Recalling their first baby loss experience, Oritsé said, ‘They said it was a missed miscarriage. We didn’t know what that was. We were so baffled, missed miscarriage? What even is that? And it just all kind of happened so fast, and they took us into this private room and started talking to us about how do you want to deal with the loss of your baby?’

He continued, ‘Any beautiful, great moment that year that happened, (you) might as well have just thrown it in the bin, because what was happening right there was like a living nightmare. And I’m looking at Kazz, Kazz is looking at me. We’re just both – we don’t understand.’

The couple had a private scan to confirm the miscarriage, hoping that it was a mistake, and they were told that another missed miscarriage was ‘extremely unlikely’.

After their appearance on Loose Women, Oritsé posted, ‘It’s such a deeply painful experience – going to a scan with hope and joy, only to leave the hospital grieving the loss of your baby. Words can’t fully express the depth of empathy I feel for anyone who has gone through this. Thank you for opening your hearts and sharing your stories with me.’

The singer, who has eight-year-old son Omre with ex Aimee Jade Azari, opened up about missed miscarriages last year, saying, ‘Baby loss and miscarriage is a very, very, very, very difficult thing to be able to deal with. You’ve got a lot of question marks that will never be answered.'

He told Metro, ‘Women go through things physically, emotionally, psychologically when it comes to that type of thing but [so do] men. I was left with certain scars and open wounds that needed to heal. I’ve learned from that and have grown. I’ve encouraged other men to speak openly and have had a lot of men reached out to me, saying that was really helpful.’

Shereen Low is a senior writer on Grazia UK.