Man Furious After Sister Kicks Him Out of Dead Sibling's Funeral

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A woman's family is divided after she adhered to her late sister's funeral wishes and didn't allow their brother to attend.

"My sister passed away recently after a long illness, and before she died, she made very clear instructions regarding her funeral. She specifically did not want our brother, John, to attend or receive any of her ashes," the woman began on Reddit.

She explained that her sister and John "fought like cats and dogs" as kids, and their relationship remained strained even into adulthood.

"As an adult, she sought therapy, recognized the damage she had done, and tried to make amends. She apologized multiple times and reached out, but John refused to reconcile. He was clear that he didn’t want a relationship with her," the woman shared.

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After falling ill, her sister attempted to reconnect with John yet again, and expressed that she would like to see him.

Still he declined, stating that he had no interest in repairing their relationship, even as she was dying.

"This hurt her, and she made it clear that if he didn’t want to see her while she was alive, she didn’t want him at her funeral or receiving any part of her remains. In her view, if he couldn’t show up for her in life, he had no right to be there in death," the woman continued.

John wasn't invited to the funeral, however, he showed up anyway.

"I asked him to leave. He became angry, caused a scene, and accused me of being cruel and preventing him from saying goodbye. Several family members have since criticized my decision, saying I should have let him stay for closure, saying that funerals are for the living, but I pointed out this was her last wish," she recalled.

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Users in the comments section applauded the woman for staying true to her sister's wishes.

"You did the right thing standing up for your sister. She would be proud of you. He can get therapy himself if he is honest about closure and talks to the therapist about it," one person wrote.

"It can be hard not to cave in and choose a path of least resistance, especially when family is in play, and it shows a lot of character sticking to your guns in a situation like that," another commented.

"Just food for thought but it may have finally hit John that he was in the wrong and showing up was a way for him to let everything go and maybe apologize to her spirit. I am sorry for your loss," someone else chimed in.